Using the words get to instead of: have to, need to, ought to, really should…is changing my attitude and my life.
It’s more than semantics
or a minor word change.
Catching myself and changing thoughts
and words to the phrase I get to
flips the switch on my
thoughts and attitudes.
Read these examples aloud:
- I have to be home when my kids come home from school.
I get to be home when my kids come home from school.
- I really should take a walk today.
I get to take a walk today.
- I need to go home and wait for the repair man so my husband can run to McDonald’s for lunch.
I get to go home and wait for the repair man so my husband can run to McDonald’s for lunch.
- I ought to eat smaller portions at meals.
I get to eat smaller portions at meals.
Did you read these sentence with different inflections? Different sounds?
Have to, need to, ought to, really should imply unwelcome duty, drudgery, and a lack of choice.
Get to implies willingness. You think, say, and do something because you choose it.
This tiny change has big results. Let’s expand on the examples:
- I’m so fortunate to have this schedule. It means that I get to be home when my kids come home from school. I can see whether they had a good day or not, are really tired, or need some extra loving. It helps take the guess work out of determining the kind of parenting my children need each day.
- I get to take a walk today—my endorphins will rise, I’ll be out in God’s creation, I’ll sleep better tonight, and my health will improve.
- By cheerfully changing my plans to give my husband the lunch break he wants to have today, I get to speak to him in a love language that he understands and appreciates.
- I get to eat smaller portions at meals. Having enough food is a privilege that many don’t have, but it can lead to using food as a means to comfort, reward, or greed. By choosing smaller portions, I am acknowledging that the Holy Spirit lives in me and meets all my needs. (Boy, this one is a doozy to change!)
It seems ridiculous that such a small change can have a big impact, but what it does is bring awareness of habitual attitudes that creep in and fill your thoughts. It brings awareness of the attitude you are operating under. Changing one word allows you to play-act a different-than-usual role in routine situations, and gradually a more positive attitude will become the norm.
“I get to…”
Try it. You’ll like it.