People may tell you that you aren’t supposed to grieve, that your sadness reveals a lack of faith. “Jesus carried your grief, so you don’t have to carry it any more.” What does the Bible have to say about grief?

Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn. 
Romans 12:15, NLT

When Jesus saw her weeping and the Jews who had come along with her also weeping, he was deeply moved in spirit and troubled. “Where have you laid him?” he asked. “Come and see, Lord,” they replied. 
Jesus wept. 
Then the Jews said, “See how he loved him!” But some of them said, “Could not he who opened the eyes of the blind man have kept this man from dying?”
Jesus, once more deeply moved, came to the tomb. 
John 11:33-38, NIV

There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven: a time to be born and a time to die… a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance … 
Ecclesiastes 3:1-2, 4, NLT

Submit yourselves, then, to God. . . Grieve, mourn, and wail. Change your laughter to mourning and your joy to gloom. Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up. 
Psalm 147:3, NIV

The truth is, Jesus is the resurrection, but he still expressed himself. He wants us to be real with our hearts and with others whose hearts are crushed with sorrow. If you have to cry, do it.

God calls us to honor the heart of those who grieve. And our comfort to mourners should arise from our faith, not from our preaching of faith. It should come from our firm assurance and intimate knowledge of the kind of God we serve. Embrace the mourning, because in the embrace comes release. Grieving or mourning our losses brings us by stages into the flow of living again. However slowly and painfully we move from death to life, from dying to rising, joy comes out of sorrow.

JOY is not the absence of suffering,
but the presence of GOD.