Is your approach to online dating like car shopping?

WV4Q7KUM3AA recently married man in his mid-thirties commented:
“In my experience in online dating, you spend time searching for someone, connect with her, and enjoy three or four dates. But it’s very easy to fall into the trap of thinking, ‘Well, this has been nice and seems promising, but I bet if I keep looking I’ll find just the perfect match.’ Many of my peers are stuck in this rut.”

In my July 15 post I asked a lot of questions about our rapidly increasing technology and the effects it may or may not have on us. When I heard this comment, I knew that I had missed one very important question:

What can technology reveal to us about ourselves and about humanity?

Transportation 0063How is the approach to dating described above different than shopping for a car? Figure out the model and make you are interested in and go looking for just the right one, test-driving car after car. This might be hard on the sales people who hope to score a big sale, but the cars don’t really feel one way or another about it. Why not? Because they’re a thing, a commodity–useful, attractive, necessary, with only semi-permanent ownership potential.

A car is commodity. A woman isn’t.

How far have people progressed since the time Ruth and Naomi were labeled as WORTHLESS and A DRAIN ON RESOURCES when tragedy destroyed their lives. Overnight their life labels  took a drastic dive from FAMILY MATRON and WIFE, to childless widows with no means of support and no future.

They were commodities that were ready for the trash heap as they no longer fulfilled society’s requirement for worth.

That’s not what God said or intended at our creation.

So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them;
male and female he created them…God saw all that he had made, and it was very good.
Genesis 1:27, 31 (NIV)

His label for both male and female is VERY GOOD.

God made people, and He desired them to be in relationship. That leads me to two more questions:

Does my (our) use of technology hinder or hamper my ability to see others as individuals rather than commodities?

Am I using technology in a way that strengthens my ability to interact with others or to help me to avoid the messiness and adaptation required by person-to-person contact?

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