For you have been called to live in freedom, my brothers and sisters. But don’t use your freedom to satisfy your sinful nature. Instead, use your freedom to serve one another in love. For the whole law can be summed up in this one command: “Love your neighbor as yourself.” Galatians 5:13 (NLT)
Live in freedom—use your freedom to love your neighbor as yourself. To do that we have to take love out of the pretty package that we have confined it in and replace it with the loves that lives inside us by the power of the Holy Spirit. Off with the old love and on with the new.
We are not to die to our needs, but to die to the sinful ways of determining how those needs will be met.
- Identify your wounds that led to the vows and judgments you made which restrict your love language.
- Identify your personal limited editions of love. Spell them out and leave them at the cross.
- Repent of your false expectations and any underlying bitterness. Repent for the bitter roots and inner vows you have against others: “They just don’t care,” “I won’t ask,” “I won’t care . . .”
- Forgive those you perceive as not meeting your needs.
- Ask in prayer for release from the prisons of the wrapped-and-ribboned box that you created for love so you can be set free to bask in God’s love and to spread it around.
- Give comfort to the heart of the child in you that did not receive comfort.
- Ask God to restore trust and remove the underlying fear that you won’t be loved.
- Study God’s love examples and definitions and ask the Holy Spirit to bring them alive in you.
- Let others around you know how you need to be loved. Communicate.
O God, In the beginning
You shaped my soul and set its weave;
You formed my body and gave it breath.
Renew me this day in the image of your love. Amen.