A blueprint is a detailed plan. Building a house without one is risky if you want it to last for any length of time and withstand weather or natural disasters. You need to follow rules of design that build strength in all the right places so rain won’t come through the roof and strong winds will stay outside. You want a well-thought-out interior that will complement all the stages of life that your family goes through.
GOD’S OVER-ARCHING BLUEPRINT FOR PARENTING
Building the house of a child’s character also needs a blueprint. And God gives us one in His word.
Direct your children onto the right path, and when they are older, they will not leave it. Proverbs 22:6 (NLT)
Does this mean that we need to figure out how to make our child do all the right things? That’s a prescription for failure. Rather, we are to find out the God-formed shape of this child—and train him to be the child God molded him to be. And he will not depart from that.
If you sin without knowing what you’re doing, God takes that into account. But if you sin knowing full well what you’re doing, that’s a different story entirely. Merely hearing God’s law is a waste of your time if you don’t do what he commands. Doing, not hearing, is what makes the difference with God.
When outsiders who have never heard of God’s law follow it more or less by instinct, they confirm its truth by their obedience. They show that God’s law is not something alien, imposed on us from without, but woven into the very fabric of our creation. There is something deep within them that echoes God’s yes and no, right and wrong. Their response to God’s yes and no will become public knowledge on the day God makes his final decision about every man and woman. The Message from God that I proclaim through Jesus Christ takes into account all these differences.
Romans 2:14–16 (The Message)
God gives each of us a nature, a natural bent. This nature is not perfect, because we are born into a sin-filled world. Children have an innate something inside that tells them what is fair and right, but they won’t follow it without some discipline. If I beat my child and at the same time tell her that what I am doing—beating her—is right, I violate her sense of right and wrong and create confusion. I have planted in that child a belief system that is contrary to what God wants, and it becomes the very house of her character.
For our earthly fathers disciplined us for a few years, doing the best they knew how. But God’s discipline is always good for us, so that we might share in his holiness. No discipline is enjoyable while it is happening—it’s painful! But afterward there will be a peaceful harvest of right living for those who are trained in this way. Hebrews 12:10–11 (NLT)
Proper discipline is a sign of love.
My child, don’t make light of the Lord’s discipline, and don’t give up when he corrects you. For the Lord disciplines those he loves, and he punishes each one he accepts as his child.
Hebrews 12:5–6 (NLT)