Am I sorry for me or for what I’ve done to another?

Remorse  is when we are only sorry that we failed. Repentance is when we are in pain because we have hurt God or another person—for that person’s sake and for God’s not for ourselves. It focuses attention on the wounded one. If we are hurting for our own sake because we have failed, that is… Read More

Effects of false shame

 … The Pharisees brought a woman who had been caught in the act of adultery. … “Teacher,” they said to Jesus, “this woman was caught in the act of adultery. The law of Moses says to stone her. What do you say?” … Jesus stooped down and wrote in the dust with his finger. They kept demanding… Read More

False shame vs. guilt

False shame is a fear of being found out, exposed, humiliated, and abandoned. Guilt is our friend, a gift from God that drives us to God, keeping us on the right path (John 16:7–14). False shame says, “I am a mistake.”  Guilt says, “I made a mistake.” False shame says, “I am wrong.”  Guilt says,… Read More